I have 1 million and 1 things I need to do right now, so naturally I am writing a blog post. As a teenage girl, I know how hard it is to go through school years, without having your confidence knocked. All girls run into some trouble with other girls, and petty arguments, it’s just part of the school years.
Consistently being compared to other people, and the ‘popular’ girls in school, I never was one of those girls. The girls that everyone ‘loved’ and everyone wanted to be like. Looking back at my school years now, I have realized that being exactly like these girls and being ‘popular’ is not as important as it seemed at the time. Just because you have the most friends, and everyone likes you, does not mean that you are the happiest or have the best friends. When it comes to friendships, what’s important is quality not quantity. I would rather have a small network of friends that are there for me, rather than a whole load of people who wouldn’t be there when I needed them.
When faced with the traditional stereotype of being ‘popular’ and ‘cool’ in school, it can lead you to create negative believes about yourself in your head. In my own experience, I compared myself to these girls. It’s natural, everyone compares themselves to others, we just have to remember that we are all different and unique in our own way. Everyone is different, we are good at different things, we are bad at different things. We can’t go through life not feeling good enough, because someone else has ‘nicer hair’ or because we don’t like the same TV show as someone else. It’s easy to get caught up in this trap, and start to create negative thoughts about ourselves, one’s that are not true. When feeling these negative thoughts you have to think of the positive things about yourself, it’s easy to assume everyone else is ‘flawless’. Therefore comparing your flaws to other people’s perfections, can make us believe that we are not as ‘good’ as other people. Always remember that other people have flaws that you don’t see, and that you are just as good as them.
One of my favourite quotes is ‘Believe – it’s not who you are that holds you back, it’s who you think you are.’ By thinking of negative things about yourself, you are holding yourself back, it’s these negative thoughts that are the problem, not you. Aim to be more positive, make a list of positive attributes about yourself. It’s easy to focus on the negative thoughts, so forcing yourself to think of the positives can help you to realize that you are not all bad. That these negative thoughts are just in your head. Try to challenge yourself to look in the mirror each morning, and think of something positive you like about yourself. One little change in your day such as this, can make a huge difference to your mood, confidence and self-esteem over time. Everyone is made up from imperfections, that’s what make’s us perfect. Always remember that. Until next time.